Shame, Shame – He Took Double Shame
Shame and embarrassment are not the same. I know because I did a little research. Shame does not necessarily involve public humiliation while embarrassment does. They differ in intensity. I would say they differ in intensity because shame is a deep, inward feeling that we hold inside of us — no one knows of the disgrace and condemnation we feel in that isolation. Some might say embarrassment is more intense because it is visible to everyone.
Justin Holcomb quotes Tangney and Dearing as saying, “Shamed people feel exposed. Although shame doesn’t necessarily involve an actual observing audience that is present to witness one’s shortcomings, there is often the imagery of how one’s destructive self would appear to others.”
I found that I am completely familiar with the feeling of shame but not the intellectual meaning of shame. I carried shame for years, and sometimes I still do. We carry the shame of what we have done. We carry the shame of what has been done to us. We even carry the shame of what we’ve thought about doing.
Something else I found: shame is associated with the words disgrace and condemnation. Well, that just makes sense to me. One, because Christ does something beautiful with
shame. He turns disgrace to grace. Then, he turns condemnation to There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus (Romans 8:1).
So, “As for me, where could I carry my shame?” or “Where can I get rid of my disgrace?” as Tamar asks in 2 Samuel 13:13.
It’s been carried, and it’s been disposed of — at the cross. We don’t have to carry our shame. Our hope is in Christ and His accomplishment on the cross on our behalf “and hope does not put us to shame” (Romans 5:5).
Holcomb says, “The good news of the gospel is that Jesus endured the cross, disregarding the shame. The good news is that Jesus disregarded the shame of dying by crucifixion, and in doing so also took our shame upon himself. Jesus willingly suffered the most shameful death and this exposed the extremity of sin’s shameful consequences and the despicable character of our humanly devised shame. He ‘despis[ed] the shame.’ We can say that Jesus both shared our shame and bore our shame so that we can have freedom from its dread and power.“