On occasion, I kick my husband out of bed. Not because he makes me mad. Not because he snores. Not because he’s a bum. I kick him out because we reserve the right in our house to call one another’s bluff if we believe the other is “hiding” and not legitimately resting.
Can you distinguish the difference?
Hiding is wrapped in fear, defeat, dread, paranoia, isolation, being overwhelmed.
When we hide, we take matters into our own hands. There is a tension we want broken, and we aim to cut it with sleep, withdrawal, darkness. We wake to find sleep was not the cure for exhaustion, possibly because exhaustion was not the culprit.
Rest is intertwined with solitude, retreat, focus, comfort, even worship.
When we rest, there is a relaxed submission about us, a hope that surrounds us. We are able to be tired and overwhelmed with our circumstances, yet at peace. We are at peace because of surrendering control of our situation.
The Lord provides rest; it may come in the form of sleep but not always. And, he is the only one capable of providing rest in the midst of our turmoil. We often look for rest outside of or around or after our circumstances, but he provides rest “in the middle.”
Thus says the LORD:
“Stand by the roads, and look,
and ask for the ancient paths,
where the good way is; and walk in it,
and find rest for your souls.” Jeremiah 6:16
Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light. Matthew 11:28-30
How can you differentiate for yourself if you are hiding or resting? Once it’s been brought to your attention, there shouldn’t be any trouble telling the difference between the two. Next, determine what you’re hiding from if that’s the case. I usually hide because I’m overwhelmed or paranoid. Chris usually hides because he feels defeated or is dreading something. The most difficult part is giving over our control. But, when we find rest for our souls and realize he doesn’t lay anything heavy on us, how can we decline?
He beckons: Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. (The Message)
Are you hiding from your circumstances, or are you resting in the Lord?